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Is It Home Yet?
American flag flying beside a building against the sky.
Aug 275 min read


It’s Not Rude. It’s Just New York’s Unwritten Rules
A selfie among Michelangelo’s angels. 🇫🇷 La version française suit la version anglaise. I took this photo at an immersive art exhibit. How often do I get to find myself surrounded by angels? Michelangelo’s, on top of that! So I took a selfie. Somehow, it felt fitting for this post about being new and immersed among New Yorkers. A few weeks ago, as I was entering a busy store in Manhattan, I held the door open for someone. Two other people quickly pushed their way through as
Aug 136 min read


A View of New York From a New Jersey Address
A distant, slightly blurry zoom shot of the Statue of Liberty against the horizon, capturing a humorous and imperfect view from the new neighborhood.
Une vue lointaine et légèrement floue de la Statue de la Liberté à l'horizon, capturant un aperçu humoristique et imparfait depuis le nouveau quartier.
Jul 3010 min read


From London to New York: Still Landing
Cliquez ici pour la version française sous les photos A few nights ago, a sudden, sharp explosion jolted me—and, I suspect, everyone else—awake. When the relative Manhattan silence returned, I drifted back to sleep. Somewhere between asleep and awake, my brain slipped into a kind of lucid dream and answered a question I had been asking myself for days: What would my first post from the United States be about? The answer was surprisingly simple. I am in the United States, and
Jul 1614 min read


The Unstoppable Pull of Elsewhere
From childhood pen pals to cross-cultural marriage, a deeply personal reflection on travel, living abroad, and the emotional difference between finding a place to stay and truly belonging.
The seeds of “elsewhere” were planted by my father—or perhaps by the fairies above my crib. ^_^ He spent his life in the navy and came home every few months with stories from far-off ports with magical names...
Jul 24 min read


How a Progressive Orthodox Rabbi Welcomed My Conversion (Part 2)
👉 Read Part 1 here: Part 1 The Rabbi Who Changed My Israeli Life After my in-laws finished explaining the situation, the rabbi turned to me with a discreet and gentle smile. “Is it true?” he asked. “Everything they’ve just said — is it correct? Do you truly want to convert?” I nodded yes. He did not ask why. Instead, he moved on to more casual questions. He asked where I was from, whether this was my first time in Israel, where I was studying the language, and how I had met
Jun 214 min read


The Rabbi Who Changed My Israeli Life (Part 1)
Every so often, life brings us someone who changes the direction of our lives. For me, in 1991, it was someone I had never imagined needing ever: a well-known, beloved North Tel Aviv rabbi. Though he has since passed away (z”l — may his memory be a blessing), I remember him with deep affection. I landed in Tel Aviv in November 1990, completely clueless about Judaism or the local attitude toward non-Jews. My husband, a very secular Israeli, was certain we would be fine as we w
Jun 73 min read


Can You Be Jewish and Believe in Jesus? Julia’s Story.
Can you be Jewish and believe in Jesus? Discover Julia’s powerful three-year journey through identity, biblical prophecy, and finding unexpected peace.
May 245 min read


Not Quite an Atheist After All
So, it turns out I’m a liar.
To you, dear reader—but mostly to myself. Not an earth-shattering lie, nothing scandalous… just the realization that I’m not quite who I thought I was.
After a great exchange with friends (and if you haven’t read it yet, see Zero Gods, Four Voices: Exploring Jewish Atheist and Secular Identity), a little red flag emerged.
May 104 min read


Shabbat Dinner with My In-Laws: Traditions, Food, and Family Life
The most beautiful concept I discovered while converting and living in Israel was the power of Shabbat, specifically Friday night. Depending on the family and the moment, it could feel like anything from a simple weekly gathering to a solemn kind of communion.
In my in-laws’ home, it often shifted between the two, shaped by the mood and the week behind us.
But to get to Friday night dinner, we had to go through the week.
Apr 285 min read


Zero Gods, Four Voices: Exploring Jewish Atheism and Secular Identity
I sat at my laptop and hit “Send,” feeling like a total intruder. Yes, they had agreed—but still. Here I was, a convert nudnikit (AKA totally annoying), emailing questions about God to people who had been Jewish their whole lives and hadn’t thought about Him in years—or ever.
Why bother these kind-hearted people? I wanted to clear up a common question many non-Jews have: How can someone be Jewish and an atheist? It sounds like a contradiction—but it isn’t.
Apr 183 min read


You Are Jewish. Period.: A Life Lesson from Two Israeli Sisters
For me, being Jewish is, above all, about being part of a community—specifically, the secular community.
It took me a while to feel comfortable with my new Jewish identity. I often felt judged—or at least imagined I was being judged. On the topic of religion, I probably knew more than many Israelis who had grown up secular Jews.
But knowledge wasn’t the point.
I still felt a nagging need to prove myself—even if I wasn't quite sure who I was trying to convince, or if any
Apr 74 min read


From Expectations to Reality: An Outsider’s First Pesach Seder
During my conversion in Israel in 1991, my teachers explained that Pesach (Passover) is a festival of freedom centered on one key command: In every generation, each person must see themselves as if they personally left Egypt.
Of course, it isn’t meant to be taken literally—it’s really about embracing faith and trust. But me? I’m not exactly a natural when it comes to faith in the traditional sense. Broadly speaking, though, I do have faith—plenty of it, in fact.
Mar 244 min read


Why People Convert to Judaism: Three Very Different Stories (Among Many)
Three journeys, three memoirs, and one shared destination. Discover why you don't need a 'revelation' to join the tribe
Mar 154 min read


Memoir Writing: From Soul-Searching to the Waiting Game
When I first started typing my story like I was possessed, I had no idea what kind of adventure I was stepping into.
Had I known, that familiar negative voice inside me would have shut the whole thing down after the first couple of sentences. Writing wasn’t “for me.” I’d never mastered punctuation or grammar in any language. But stuck in a small flat in a new country during endless lockdowns, I wrote anyway. It was that or lose my mind.
Mar 83 min read


Purim in Israel: A Lesson in Life
Purim is almost here, but videos shared on social media of dancing and partying in Tel Aviv are already everywhere. People are celebrating in sheltered basements and underground parking garages because of the missile threat from Iran. And I’m not surprised. And it makes me smile.
Because if there’s one thing I’ve learned from living in Israel, it’s this: Israelis don’t wait for perfect conditions to live. They live anyway. There’s a quiet strength in that.
Mar 13 min read


Discover Purim: A Personal Look at History and Traditions
Purim, Fate, and a Roll of the Dice
On March 2, 2026, it will be Purim — a holiday of costumes and joy commemorating how the Jewish people were saved long ago from an evil Persian vizier.
This year, the holiday feels oddly tied to Iran and the threat of war. That connection pulls me back to my very first Purim.
My First Purim in Israel
In 1991, Israel had just come through the Gulf War. On the evening news, journalists showed young people celebrating in the stre
Feb 224 min read


Searching for the Perfect Title for my Jewish Conversion Memoir
Choosing a title for my Jewish conversion memoir is like picking a tattoo: intensely personal. But unlike a tattoo, it’s on display for everyone to judge in an instant. Or maybe it’s more like naming a golem you’ve created—one you’ve spent ages with, puzzled over, and corrected It’s a strange challenge: how do you name a story about "becoming Jewish" for every reason except religion? I needed a title that summed up a year of identity experiments and "pretending"
Feb 143 min read


Secular Heart versus Religion
When I was five, my mother invited a nun into our home for “the talk.” I don’t know where she got the idea from. I was an active child and all I wanted was to be climbing our one tree or bouncing on the sofa. Alas, my mother made me sit and listen to this woman she introduced as Nun Something.
I wasn’t thrilled. Her long gray dress, strange white cape, and the way she stood with her hands clasped over her stomach didn’t help. My mother stood by the doorway, watching nervousl
Feb 75 min read


Where I Come From: A Story of Family & Estrangement
I was born in a small village on France’s Atlantic coast.
My father insisted that my name be short, simple, and easy to pronounce worldwide — and, most importantly, shaped by his own life experience, free of any ties, religious or otherwise. He chose Claire, from clarus in Latin, meaning bright and clear. My mother agreed. “Claire” was classic and neutral.
August 1989 — The last picture before I left their home for good, posing with my little cousins. That was the final
Feb 12 min read
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